How we feel is not a problem to be solved… it is a puzzle to be pieced together so we can see the whole picture

Dear Beautiful Soul

I have spent over two decades immersed in the world of psychology, self development and spirituality - it is my greatest passion but it all really started as a way to ‘fix’ myself.  

• If I could manage my emotions and anxiety THEN I would be happy… and everything would be ok.

• If I could lose weight and stop the self abuse THEN I would be happy… and everything would be ok.

• If I discovered all my dysfunctional patterns and changed my negative thoughts THEN I would be happy… and everything would be ok.

• If I unlearned all the conditioning and flawed beliefs THEN I would be happy… and everything would be ok.

• If I learned how to unpack and heal any childhood trauma THEN I would be happy… and everything would be ok.

• If I discovered my true purpose in life THEN I would be happy… and everything would be ok.

Yet, it felt like I would overcome one issue and another would show up - often more painful than the last.

Isn’t that all we really want in life - just to be happy and know that everything is ok.   BUT there is no fairy-tale ending, there is no happily ever after BECAUSE that means it is the end of the story.  

As long as life is happening there will be grief and pain just as there will be love and moments of joy.  Life is always going to happen and we have to show up for it regardless, we need to find a way to be ok and handle whatever life throws at us.  Exploring and gaining a deeper understanding of what is truely happening in our inner and outer worlds makes the human experience easier and less painful.  Writing Therapy is the best way that I have found to help do that - over and over again.

During my studies, I found it beneficial when I would email my counselling Lecturers with a problem and they would reply back.  I loved that I could reread their answers, and as my thought process evolved, sometimes their words would take on a different meaning.  I loved how their reply made me think more deeply and would open up my understanding of things on different levels.  

That was over a decade ago and since then I have worked as a Counsellor with many people in a variety of ways, yet I still prefer intensive therapy (like on a retreat), and Writing Therapy because I believe it to be far superior, more effective, and produce results in less time.  

As a Counsellor, I started using Writing Therapy (Email Counselling) when women from different countries would message me asking for help after reading articles I had written, (this was before COVID and online therapy wasn't really a thing yet).  Often there was a time difference so it was easier for me to communicate with them through email, working this way I learnt how effective combining therapy and writing was.  

Helping women to deepen their awareness of who they are, explore their story to heal emotional wounds and navigate life challenges using writing therapy is truly an honour, I love working in such a profoundly meaningful creative and unique way.  It also has the ability to teach people how to do it for themselves, thereby giving them a valuable life skill.

Love Belinda