When things feel messy, Counselling helps to unravel everything until it makes sense again.

• You are a mother or care giver that gives SO much to everyone in your life that you are often left feeling drained and depleted.

• You always try to do the right thing, you value love & kindness and are CONSTANTLY striving to improve yourself, while putting your family’s (and everyone else's) needs first.

• When things go wrong, you probably blame yourself because of all the times you were told that you are just ‘too sensitive'.

• It often feels like nothing works out as planned, and old wounds keep bleeding despite you thinking you are finally over it, or have ‘let it go’.

• You are anxious way too often, but you might not even label it as 'anxiety'.  Instead it shows up as overthinking, overwhelm, worrying, or feeling guilty.. about everything.

• Despite being a good person you are actually quite self judgemental and self critical, and (if you were honest) you would not be friends with anyone that treated you the way you treat yourself.

• If any of life’s extra challenges are thrown your way, you get extremely stressed or overwhelmed because it is already taking EVERYTHING YOU HAVE just to show up, to be a good mother/wife/friend/employee and get through the day the best you can.

• You are smart and intelligent but beat yourself up for being challenged by certain issues that never seem to get better...   maybe it is weight, health, relationships, love, family, money, lack of confidence.

• Maybe you are unaware of some other significant thing that has impacted your life like being emotionally neglected as a child or having unhealed emotional wounds that you might not even recognise as trauma.

AND, MOSTLY

• You are so tired of trying, trying, trying and nothing ever feeling good enough.... 

OR

• maybe none of this resonates with you but a major life change has been thrown at you (uninvited and unwanted) such as divorce, grief, mid-life crisis, a health diagnosis, or burnout, and you are struggling to be ok and get through it.

I know how hard it can be.  I know how painful it can be.  I know how soul destroying it can feel.  I know that women are really hard on themselves, especially when they are deep thinkers and deeper feelers. 

To do in-depth inner work it requires a certain amount of vulnerability and honesty - I want you to honestly ask yourself this question:

Can you honestly say that it is kind, caring, nurturing?  Is it a loving relationship?

Or can it be critical, unkind, abusive even?

If you don't have a good relationship with yourself, if self-love, self-kindness, self-compassion and self-acceptance are not present then it will effect every part of your life in a very negative way.  

I have noticed (personally and professionally) that if mothers have any unaddressed emotional wounds or unhealed trauma - they will be opened and triggered by their children at some stage.  And if we don't do the work on ourselves then we parent from a place of wounded fear.

When you can bravely address things, when you give yourself what YOU need, then you are able to respond to others with what THEY need.  If we don't give ourselves what we need then burnout, exhaustion, depression and anxiety is just around the corner.  We can't expect others to fulfil our needs, we have to do it for ourselves but often we don't even know what our needs are.

You really don't have to spend years in therapy to get to the core of issues and start to accept, manage and embrace what has or is happening in order for things to transform. 

The work we do together helps build a stronger foundation for you that is free of emotional clutter and self abuse.  Having this foundation means you are able to recognise and address each time you fall back into old patterns - because sometimes it takes a while and has many different layers.  As humans we feel 'safe' with what we know, what is familiar to us so those old patterns try to sneak back into our lives, if we are connected to all parts of ourself then we can respond with love and non-judgement and make a different choice.

By focusing on the relationship with your Self and your Story, you will uncover your flawed beliefs, un-serving behaviours and patterns, you will be conscious of how your thoughts, beliefs and perception contribute to how you experience everything.  You will gain a different perspective and a different way of looking at things.

We all have a narrative - the story we tell ourselves about who we are, or what we have experienced - but usually there is a story within the story that we are not conscious of, once we uncover that truth then clarity, understanding and acceptance is achievable.