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"How we feel is not a problem to be solved.
It is a puzzle to be pieced together so we can see the whole picture"
Hi, I'm Belinda,
I am an inspirational writer, mindfulness enthusiast, thought provoker, a therapeutic guide, mother, wife... and many other things but mostly I am a perfectly imperfect human being who is doing her best to show up every day.
After working as a Counsellor, I wanted to be able to offer alternative options for addressing our mental, emotional and spiritual health needs. I wanted to empower women and teenagers with tools and knowledge to care for themselves holistically. I wanted to offer different ways of having therapeutic conversations that were away from the traditional counselling session.
I don't think there is enough that helps us to care for our emotional health and connects us with ourselves on a soul level - so I decided to create some.
EVERYONE NEEDS TO NURTURE AND CONTINUALLY DISCOVER THEIR INNER WORLD.
ALL the answers come from within you so Soulful Moment is about offering a different way to access those answers.
A little about me, I have been married to my husband, Tony for over 20 years.
We have a 17 year old daughter, a 8 year old son and a bunch of pets.
We live in the beautiful little town of Oxford in Canterbury, New Zealand.
I am happily embracing middle age, unlearning everything that doesn't serve me while creating space for self kindness, compassion and acceptance - it is a daily practice, most days I succeed, but some days I don't.
As a child, I had an undiagnosed anxiety disorder. Even though my mother actually suffered from anxiety and panic attacks, I was labelled as ‘sensitive’ and a ‘worrier’.
I have spent the last two decades immersed in the world of psychology, self development and spirituality. I collected a range of different qualifications including a degree in Counselling, diplomas in Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy and a bunch of other qualifications.
After a particularly traumatic event, I became agoraphobic when I couldn’t leave the house without my IBS flaring up. It was humiliating for me, here I was a Counsellor and I couldn’t go out anywhere without the constant need for the loo. I felt like a failure.
I kept learning and studying (mostly because it really is my greatest passion).
I learnt about mindfulness, acceptance therapy, narrative therapy - everything and anything that was based in truth and not loaded with toxic positivity or spiritual bypassing.
Then, when my daughter was 12 years old, she started having anxiety and panic attacks.
While, I was no stranger to anxiety, personally or professionally, it was such a painfully difficult time that continued for years. The Soulful Moment Gift Collection came about because giving gifts is my love language - I wanted to give my daughter something to say 'I get you are going through a hard time and it is hard, I care, I believe you, I love you YET you still have to go to school, you still need to continually step out of your comfort zone because you are not going let anxiety stop you from doing anything, we will get through this".
It was during this period that I also did the most in-depth inner work on healing my emotional wounds which stemmed from childhood trauma.
I had to do this work so I could parent my daughter from a place of love and wellness and not from my unresolved unhealed wounds.
I think every mother owes it to themselves and their child(ren) to do the difficult work of facing any wounds, baggage, issues, challenges - whatever you want to call it - we all have some. Healing them so they aren’t always casting a shadow over our lives affecting how we parent, how we love and how we show up in the world.
We need to manage our anxiety, our sadness, our grief, our disappointment, our shame so we can show our children how to deal with difficult emotions. The Soulful Moment products were created to help with this, to help teach our children how to manage those uncomfortable difficult moments of life..
As Mothers need to learn how to be kind, caring and loving towards ourselves, so we can teach our children how to self care.
The truth is, there is always going to be moments when life gets difficult,
when it hurts,
when it is painful.
But we can learn to not fear those moments,
we can learn to embrace them,
we can learn to accept them as part of being human.
We can learn to trust that we can and will get through difficult times,
we can learn that we are capable of doing hard things.
We are here to encounter the FULL HUMAN EXPERIENCE - the heartbreakingly beauty of it all.
My favourite number is 6 and my favourite letter is S (is it weird to have a favourite letter?).
One of my favourite things to do, is go on retreats - all different types, just for the experience and the adventure of discovering new things. Whether it be solo or with others, it is always enlightening and rejuvenating.
A few of my most treasured retreats have included: ceremonies with Shaman’s in the Amazon Jungle, staying at a Ayurvedic Hospital in India and attending a silent stay in Assisi, Italy. My most recent trip was a fabulous retreat at Lake Coleridge in Canterbury, New Zealand.
I have been writing since I was teenager. Looking back at the 'poetry' I wrote, it was very dramatic but it was also very therapeutic. Writing has always been a form of therapy for me. It is where I find understanding, clarity, answers and truth.
A psychic introduced me to my husband. I am not really into that sort of thing but after 20 years together maybe she was right....we married in a drive thru in Las Vegas.
One of my favourite authors is Elizabeth Gilbert (Big Magic not Eat, Pray, Love). One of my favourite tv programmes is This is Us. One of my favourite movies is Collateral Beauty. One of my favourite singers is Ed Sheeran (not really the rapping ones... sorry Ed).
Okay, now we are best friends and you know all the important stuff about me, let's continue.
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